Praise the Lord sisters. I am new here, I have been married 18 years to my husband we have one son between us.My husband is 65 and I am 49. My husband is not living for the Lord. We have not been in a physical relationship in 16 years. We have not slept together in the same bed nor had physical relations in 16 years. This is extremely hard on me. the first 5 years i thought maybe he had a girlfriend, he said he didnt.years after that he said it just wasnt a priority. then he had a operation for cancer and now just says physically he cant.I have tried everything, i mean everything. we do have a rough marriage because of this. I feel unloved angry and just cheated. I have been faithful.we argue all the time, i feel i have nothing to build on, he could care less. please tell me how to hold on, if to hold on. he refuses counseling with me. I do love him, but i feel so heartsick. Not to mention the NEED that never goes away. never a kiss or hug. never i love you.he just says im to old to go anywhere, and so are you, meaning divorce. im not old! please help me, i really dont know what to do. thank you, sis marie
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To those of you who knew of my situatuion « Result #3 on Dec 12, 2009, 9:10pm »
To those of you who knew of my situation I have finally made the decision and made that big step and changed my circumstances, please pray for me as I am having a tough time right now. Choosing to walk through an unknown door was very hard for me. Those who knew know what I am talking about, you can send me a pm if you want to.
Gen 49:10 The sceptre shall not depart from Judah, nor a lawgiver from between his feet, until Shiloh come; and unto him shall the gathering of the people be.
Re: i just want healthy hair... « Result #4 on Dec 9, 2009, 1:58pm »
sister sunshine yes sadly the standards that were set many years ago which most are biblical are slipping and it is very sad to see but really take a good luck.How much better are we who sit here judging these sisters who are having these problems.Instead of condeming them lets show them love and pray for them because honestly one can be dressed to perfection or never cut her hair etc etc etc but with this kind of attitude we can be just as they are by showing that kind of spirit. We should never be this critical of others no matter how strong our own convictions are. We are not perfect.Some may think the computer is wrong yet here we sit,so how would we like it if others were condeming us for being on computer.Lets focus more on the Lord his love and salvation and winning lost souls. We don't know who may be reading these messages and how turned off they might get by simply reading some of these messages.Sisters need uplifting not condemnation. Lord bless
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Re: i just want healthy hair... « Result #5 on Dec 9, 2009, 1:40pm »
*sigh* sadly so many will justify and kick and spit and throw a fit in order to keep on sinning. They will proudly puff up and stand up on the platform with their cut hair and short skirts... keeping the letter of the law (perhaps) but not the spirit... that condemnation you feel isn't from me... how many will be drawn away from the Lord step by step, snip by snip, inch by inch...
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Re: i just want healthy hair... « Result #6 on Dec 7, 2009, 4:06pm »
well godivagotalota hair i was trying to encourage you to grow it back out with my post earlier on this. and no i don't participate in the gossip i tell them they should stop. i'm glad your pastor and his wife still took you but i don't think they are advocating cuting hair i think they are trying to encourage you to come back and come back knowing what God wants of you.
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Re: "Unsettled" « Result #7 on Dec 7, 2009, 2:16pm »
It's sad when one is so "unsettled" in their relationship with God. Such unrest erupts like a volcano and spews and spits venom and then everyone knows that that person does not walk with the Prince of Peace.
Yes, Love covers a multitude of sin, but, because He loves us, He chastises us (The Word). All scripture is given for what?...REPROOF, for CORRECTION, for INSTRUCTION IN RIGHTEOUSNESS, that the man of God may be perfect, throughly furnished unto all good works II Timothy 3:16 & 17. I thank God for every time He has taken my 'to the wood shed' and for every sister (brother alike) who has been used to correct me!
My Lord's commandments are not grievous, but they add life and meaning to my relationship with HIM.
HE made me, so HE has the right to "Lay down the Law"..."the Law of the LORD is perfect, converting the soul." Psalms 19:7....(read on_good!) but, go on down to the 11th verse.."Moreover by them is thy servant "warned:"and in keeping of them, there is great reward. v.12 "Who can understand his errors? Cleanse thou me from secret faults." v.13 "Keep back thy servant also from presumptuous sins; let them not have dominion over me; then shall I be upright, and I shall be innocent from the great transgression."
Oh, thank God for His Word! It will stand when the worlds on fire!!!
Yes, it's sad for the rebellious who just want to stir up strife. Pray for the enemies of His Holiness, that they will fall in love once again with HIM. He is so Merciful...every morning it is 'new'!
Yes, take care of this temple of the Lord, but be careful not to 'glory' in this flesh...HE won't have it! (Again, it's His Word!) He will not give His Glory to Another!!!
Re: i just want healthy hair... « Result #8 on Dec 7, 2009, 7:04am »
wow, okay, first thing...i have talked to my pastor, and his wife....yes, they were saddened by the loss, but guess what, they still gave me a hug, told me not to quit singing on the platform (which i had volunteered to do), and told me they still love me and are still proud of me. and about the concern with the women i feel gossip or whatever at my church...every church has them...and judging from your replies i can tell u are one of them at yours...admit it, if a lady that had gone there all there life, never cut there hair, came in one sunday whacked off, you would notice, and wouldnt keep it to yourself...this whole forum is gossip, and i dont want any more to do with it. and yes, the lady who cut my hair goes to my church...there is nothing wrong with fixing something so your hair grows back in even, and not ugly. there have been a few little girls in my lifetime that have been playing with scissors and cut their hair, their mom took them to get it evened out...nothing wrong with it, and the problem is ppl like you. girls can have something happen like this, repent and be over with it, but you self righteous snots keep beating them in the head with it...god forgave them, why wont u? and even if it was on purpose, last time i checked, arent all sins the same? stealing, lying, cheating, gossiping?...are you ready to cast the first stone lady? look out.
Re: A Question About Dying Your Hair « Result #10 on Dec 5, 2009, 10:10pm »
LOL oh sister goivagotalota hair i'm feeling your not quiet understanding these things are you aljc? i know they allow tvs and wedding rings. People just have different convictions you have yours we have ours everyone is different in what they feel God has set down for them. it seems to me as if you haven't done the work to study and find out what God wants for YOU. that's my feeling my boyfriend's mother is a lot like you and she was raised in a strict upc church but now attends and aljc they are very different. on tv you can't block the things that pop up as much as the internet. in my opinion tv is ok in fact i'm watching it right now but don't be judgemental of other women. everyone has their faults and strenghts
If you check in the glory section there are some tips on helping keeping your hair healthy and growing quickly my hair was maybe 6 inches past my shoulders in march and since i started taking care of it and not cuting it it's now 6 inches above my bum i'm kind of excited because i don't really feel left behind because when most the girls at my church now where there hair down it's only to their bum lol
"Is not My word like fire," declares the Lord, "and like a hammer that breaks a rock in pieces?" (Jeremiah 23:29) NIV [My5:http://www.myspace.com/sister_sunshinne ]
well...i dont have to worry about it anymore...i had decided against trimming it, but apparently my hair wasnt ready for it when i got it straightened yesterday because when i went in, my hair was to my butt, and now its at the top of my bra line...i didnt cut it...it fried. she had to cut off the burnt ends to get the comb thru...and after about 24 hours of crying, i have accepted it, and now actually love it, its softer and shinier...its like god is giving me a chance to start over with it...to take better care this time. now just pray for me...theres a few self righteous folks @ my church and i know they are just gonna have a heyday with this....but news flash...i answer to god, not them...so the way i see it is as long as ppl are talking about me, they are leaving someone else alone...
This saddens me and it saddens me in more ways than one sister. Didn't you say the woman who was going to do your hair attended your church? Yet she CUT your hair? Burnt or not, cutting is cutting irregardless of the reason.
My daughter's hair caught fire when she was standing too close to an open flame and she still did NOT cut anything! She let nature take it's course and left the burnt hair there until God saw fit for it to fall off on it's own! And it was pretty bad as it burnt all the way up to her forehead and also singed off her eyebrows!!!
It sounds as if you need to seek some time with your pastor's wife and your pastor to really be sure you truly understand the Biblical basis for holiness standards. I'm getting the feeling you don't truly understand why we don't cut the hair and are viewing this as a social thing rather than a holiness issue. (hence the perming and the styling, etc.. )
Also, although you do answer to the Lord I am troubled that you feel that your sisters in the Lord are full of gossip. Again this is something you need to speak with the pastor and possibly his wife about right away.
I get the impression you are fairly young, and I sense a spirit of the world trying to find it's way into your heart... I'm not trying to offend you sister, but I am trying to warn you.. I've seen so many women be ensared by satan this very way!!! Through vanity of the hair!!!
A little snip here, a little style there... step by step farther away from the Lord, but by little bit until they are backslid...
"Is not My word like fire," declares the Lord, "and like a hammer that breaks a rock in pieces?" (Jeremiah 23:29) NIV [My5:http://www.myspace.com/sister_sunshinne ]
Re: i just want healthy hair... « Result #14 on Dec 5, 2009, 7:23pm »
too late...got my hair straightened yesterday...burnt over 13 inches off, then she cut another 3 inches or so off to even it out...the way it burnt actually looks like perfect layers, which is sweet. i was a little shocked at first...but only a little, and now i cant keep my hands off my hair...it is thick, shiny, soft...even though it only reaches a few inches below my shoulders, i can honestly say i love it!
Re: i just want healthy hair... « Result #15 on Dec 5, 2009, 7:21pm »
too late...got my hair straightened yesterday...burnt over 13 inches off, then she cut another 3 inches or so off to even it out...the way it burnt actually looks like perfect layers, which is sweet. i was a little shocked at first...but only a little, and now i cant keep my hands off my hair...it is thick, shiny, soft...even though it only reaches a few inches below my shoulders, i can honestly say i love it!
Re: i just want healthy hair... « Result #17 on Dec 5, 2009, 6:29pm »
If you check in the glory section there are some tips on helping keeping your hair healthy and growing quickly my hair was maybe 6 inches past my shoulders in march and since i started taking care of it and not cuting it it's now 6 inches above my bum i'm kind of excited because i don't really feel left behind because when most the girls at my church now where there hair down it's only to their bum lol
Re: i just want healthy hair... « Result #18 on Dec 5, 2009, 5:53am »
well...i dont have to worry about it anymore...i had decided against trimming it, but apparently my hair wasnt ready for it when i got it straightened yesterday because when i went in, my hair was to my butt, and now its at the top of my bra line...i didnt cut it...it fried. she had to cut off the burnt ends to get the comb thru...and after about 24 hours of crying, i have accepted it, and now actually love it, its softer and shinier...its like god is giving me a chance to start over with it...to take better care this time. now just pray for me...theres a few self righteous folks @ my church and i know they are just gonna have a heyday with this....but news flash...i answer to god, not them...so the way i see it is as long as ppl are talking about me, they are leaving someone else alone...
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Re: i just want healthy hair... « Result #19 on Dec 4, 2009, 7:44am »
The only remedy in the long run is to STOP doing all chemical treatments to your hair. The perming and straightening etc is causing the damage to your hair and the ends are being repeatedly exposed to these chemichals and treatments. If you don't stop doing this you will find yourself being tempted by the devil over and over again to keep cutting and cutting. Don't cut. Just stop mistreating the hair. Instead start treating it gently gently gently. wash only once a week, you can rinse daily but wash only once a week. wear it up daily not down to protect the ends. comb it only when necessary with a wide tooth comb, handle it gently, use only non-break type of pony tie things and not too tight.
Remember sister, it isn't about "style" or "hair do" etc.. too many in pentecost allow this worldly vanity to creep in and become a tool of satan. Our hair is our covering and protection NOT to be a thing to show off in church and use to attract the eye of man.
Don't do the chemical straightening!!! you are going to have what in some circles is called the "pentecostal haircut" your hair is going to break right off.
you need to take an entire new approach to hair care and styling. please prayerfully seekthe Lord on this.
you want HEALTHY hair not healthy LOOKING hair.. see the difference?
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okay...our church still preaches the same thing it started out preaching over 61 years ago...we wear wedding rings, we wear leggings under our skirts, and yes sometimes they are longer than the skirt (the skirt is always knee length or longer still), we wear big pretty flowers in our hair, and as we age, we have the option of keeping our hair its original color...IF it is going to help our self esteem. our pastor does a yearly month of bible study nites dedicated to holiness and standards, just cause of so many new ppl coming in, and he made the statement that if you are doing something for yourself, not for others, as long as its not changing your appearance....drastic hair changes, makeup, plastic surgery....that its not sin. when i first started reading some of these forums i was shocked that you ppl preach against everything but apple pie, motherhood and sunshine, but still are on the internet...theres lots of evil on here...just kinda shocked that someone who has "personal convictions" about wearing a wedding ring, or whatever are active bloggers... how would you profile me? im a married apo woman, wearing a wedding band and engagement ring set, with a diamond and crosses on them, my hair is permed (for now, im getting it done next week), im drinking a latte, sitting next to my 7 ft christmas tree watching movies on my 42"§plasma screen tv...were apostolic, not amish.
Well, I wouldn't "profile" you. For me, some of it could be counted as personal conviction, but a lot of it is from the Bible. That's where my convictions come from. Some are straight from the Bible, and some are deeper convictions that I have. I don't believe in a lot of those things (i.e. Christmas trees, jewelry, etc), because it talks about it in the Bible. Yes, the internet does have some terrible things on it, just like the television. I use the internet, but I believe in filters and blockers. I'm not "preaching", but that's why I have the convictions I have.
i have been raised apostolic my whole life, and have never had my hair cut. ive had it permed every 2 years since i was 13 (the apo norm) and now, no matter how much i condition, about 4inches at the bottom has no reaction. ive even tried wrapping it up conditioned, leaving it on overnight. it looked great until my hair dried, then immediately back to straw. i am going to have my hair chemically straightened by next week, so i dont have to use my flat iron as much, but i want to try and have her trim some of the ends off, so its softer and healthier. ive heard all my life, about my hair being my glory, and its not like i want a new style, just healthier looking hair. the person thats going to do my hair goes to my church, and so she understands its not about losing length, just about keeping it healthy. i feel that if our bodies are gods temple, we should keep them looking like a temple, not an old apartment. what are your feelings on this?
I think that there are other ways to keep hair healthy other than cutting it (trimming, one in the same). There are some good recipes and things to try for healthier hair on this site than can help you out without having to cut your hair.
Yes, it's true that we should "upkeep" God's temple, but we can keep it a "temple", I believe, without cutting our hair. I don't feel that however the ends of our hair look really make look at us and think of us as shabby. I think it's more what's on the inside that make it either a temple or apartment to God.
Re: A Question About Dying Your Hair « Result #22 on Dec 3, 2009, 1:17am »
okay...our church still preaches the same thing it started out preaching over 61 years ago...we wear wedding rings, we wear leggings under our skirts, and yes sometimes they are longer than the skirt (the skirt is always knee length or longer still), we wear big pretty flowers in our hair, and as we age, we have the option of keeping our hair its original color...IF it is going to help our self esteem. our pastor does a yearly month of bible study nites dedicated to holiness and standards, just cause of so many new ppl coming in, and he made the statement that if you are doing something for yourself, not for others, as long as its not changing your appearance....drastic hair changes, makeup, plastic surgery....that its not sin. when i first started reading some of these forums i was shocked that you ppl preach against everything but apple pie, motherhood and sunshine, but still are on the internet...theres lots of evil on here...just kinda shocked that someone who has "personal convictions" about wearing a wedding ring, or whatever are active bloggers... how would you profile me? im a married apo woman, wearing a wedding band and engagement ring set, with a diamond and crosses on them, my hair is permed (for now, im getting it done next week), im drinking a latte, sitting next to my 7 ft christmas tree watching movies on my 42"§plasma screen tv...were apostolic, not amish.
Re: A Question About Dying Your Hair « Result #23 on Dec 3, 2009, 1:16am »
okay...our church still preaches the same thing it started out preaching over 61 years ago...we wear wedding rings, we wear leggings under our skirts, and yes sometimes they are longer than the skirt (the skirt is always knee length or longer still), we wear big pretty flowers in our hair, and as we age, we have the option of keeping our hair its original color...IF it is going to help our self esteem. our pastor does a yearly month of bible study nites dedicated to holiness and standards, just cause of so many new ppl coming in, and he made the statement that if you are doing something for yourself, not for others, as long as its not changing your appearance....drastic hair changes, makeup, plastic surgery....that its not sin. when i first started reading some of these forums i was shocked that you ppl preach against everything but apple pie, motherhood and sunshine, but still are on the internet...theres lots of evil on here...just kinda shocked that someone who has "personal convictions" about wearing a wedding ring, or whatever are active bloggers... how would you profile me? im a married apo woman, wearing a wedding band and engagement ring set, with a diamond and crosses on them, my hair is permed (for now, im getting it done next week), im drinking a latte, sitting next to my 7 ft christmas tree watching movies on my 42"§plasma screen tv...were apostolic, not amish.
i just want healthy hair... « Result #24 on Dec 3, 2009, 12:09am »
i have been raised apostolic my whole life, and have never had my hair cut. ive had it permed every 2 years since i was 13 (the apo norm) and now, no matter how much i condition, about 4inches at the bottom has no reaction. ive even tried wrapping it up conditioned, leaving it on overnight. it looked great until my hair dried, then immediately back to straw. i am going to have my hair chemically straightened by next week, so i dont have to use my flat iron as much, but i want to try and have her trim some of the ends off, so its softer and healthier. ive heard all my life, about my hair being my glory, and its not like i want a new style, just healthier looking hair. the person thats going to do my hair goes to my church, and so she understands its not about losing length, just about keeping it healthy. i feel that if our bodies are gods temple, we should keep them looking like a temple, not an old apartment. what are your feelings on this?
i just want healthy hair... « Result #25 on Dec 3, 2009, 12:02am »
i have been raised apostolic my whole life, and have never had my hair cut. ive had it permed every 2 years since i was 13 (the apo norm) and now, no matter how much i condition, about 4inches at the bottom has no reaction. ive even tried wrapping it up conditioned, leaving it on overnight. it looked great until my hair dried, then immediately back to straw. i am going to have my hair chemically straightened by next week, so i dont have to use my flat iron as much, but i want to try and have her trim some of the ends off, so its softer and healthier. ive heard all my life, about my hair being my glory, and its not like i want a new style, just healthier looking hair. the person thats going to do my hair goes to my church, and so she understands its not about losing length, just about keeping it healthy. i feel that if our bodies are gods temple, we should keep them looking like a temple, not an old apartment. what are your feelings on this?
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